Tuesday, May 27, 2014

Twenty Keys To A Happy Marriage


Do you want to know what the secret is to a happy marriage/relationship?

I’ve been with Kevin for twenty years and will be married to him for nineteen on July 25th of this year. One of the best things I've ever done in my life was marry him. I’m not tooting my horn or anything, but we have the most awesome relationship ever. Yeah, he gets on my nerves sometimes and I get on his, but it’s no big deal.

Side note: I’m no expert; however, the following doesn’t only come from me but from relationship experts as well:

Anyway, here are the twenty keys to a happy marriage/relationship.

1.) The person you marry should be your best friend. Period. 


     2.) Sense of humor. You have to have a sense of humor in a relationship. If you can’t tease and play around with each other, it won’t work. Having fun with your spouse and joking around is important.

    3.) Appreciation. You need to show or tell your significant other how much you appreciate her. Whenever Kevin does something like the dishes for example, I always thank him for it and tell him I appreciate it, and he does the same for me as well.

   4.) Common courtesy. If you’re going to be late coming home or whatever, call (Kevin and I do this all the time). Common courtesy. If the gas tank is almost on empty, stop at a gas station and fill it up. Common courtesy. Guys, put the toilet seat down before you go to bed. The list goes on.

   5.) Honesty. You must be honest with one another because resentment will eventually kill your relationship. It doesn’t go away. It festers.

   6.) Don’t finger point. “Well, this happened because you did this. We wouldn’t be in this situation if you would have checked our bank account.” Instead, you need to talk it out. We all make mistakes. This one time Kevin bought a truck and asked the dealership guy to hold our check. Well, he didn’t, and our rent check bounced. I could have easily been pissed off at Kevin and rightfully so. I told him that might happen, and he assured me it wouldn’t. Hey, shit happens, move on. If you implement honesty and common courtesy, it won’t happen again.

   7.) If you plan on making a big purchase on something, talk it over with your spouse first. It’s her money, too.

   8.) Teammates. You need to work together to accomplish what you want in life. Kevin and I do this all the time. When we were in credit card debit, we both said, enough is enough. We need to fix this and build our bank account. We cracked down and paid off all our credit cards. It took a year, but we did it.

   9.) Be supportive. You must support each other's goals in life. If it’s something outlandish and you feel is idiotic, don’t talk down to him. You’re best friends, so talk it over and voice your concerns. Come up with a comprise you both can agree upon.

 10.) Never take each other for granted. Leave notes to one another from time to time. They can be simple such as, I miss and love you. Kevin and I do that, and it always puts a smile on my face.

  11.) Sex. Yeah, sex isn’t everything in a relationship, but it is part of having a good one.

  12.) Thoughtfulness. Be thoughtful towards one another. The other day I was late for lunch. I came home, and Kevin was in the middle of making me a ham sandwich. It touched me that he thought of me, knowing I would have to make my own lunch, then go back to work. He saved me the trouble of making it. I really appreciated it and told him so. Another example is every Sunday my editor makes breakfast in bed for his girlfriend. How sweet is that?

   13.) Don’t try to change each other. But then again, if you married your best friend, you wouldn’t have to, right?

   14.) Have date nights. Life gets hectic. Let’s face it. We live in a world where we're expected to constantly go, go, go. You need to carve out one night a week where you and your hubby can go out and have some fun together. Kevin and I go out to eat every Friday night. It’s something to get excited about and look forward to.

   15.) Respect. You must respect each other, because if you don’t you’re in trouble.

   16.) Trust. That’s a big one. Without trust, your relationship is doomed.

   17.) Praise. You should praise each other. I’m always telling Kevin he rocks when he does something cool, and he does the same for me as well.

   18.) Compliments. Tell your wife or girlfriend she’s beautiful or cute. If she makes a good meal, tell her how yummy it is.

   19.) Affection. There are some peeps who aren’t affectionate, but I think everyone needs some affection. Hug and kiss your other half every day. Tell him you love him. Tell her you’ll miss her.

   20.) Be open. I don’t care what anyone says, if you can’t talk about your poos or be open enough to fart in front of each other from time to time, there’s some fun and comfort lacking in your relationship. You don't have to be rude or disgusting about it. But those things are part of being human, so why not joke and be silly about them? We all have gross bodily functions. Why hide it from the person you chose to spend the rest of your life with? Kevin and I joke and laugh about it all the time. In fact, Kevin will sometimes say as he's heading to the bathroom, "I think I got to make some Beckis." Hahaha. He's such a dork. But believe me, I get him back. :) See what I mean, though?

The couple in this picture has been married for 80 years. Yes, you read that right. 80 years! He’s 101 years old and she’s 97. They claim they’re still in love. Sweet, huh?


Anyway, if you follow those twenty things I’ve mentioned, you’re going to have an awesome relationship that will last your whole life. 



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