RV Renovation: A Huge Bleeping Mess

On step forward, two steps back.

Yesterday wasn’t a good RV renovation day for us. 

At first it started out great.

We hired someone to help Kevin with some things on the RV that needed to be done.

Wiring up everything went great.

-Well, Kevin built this box to put our batteries in and just as an added safety precaution, he wanted to screw it to the bottom of the RV compartment it'll be housed in. The reason being, if he had to suddenly break or if we ended up in an accident, the box wouldn’t slide.

Good idea, right?

Kevin and the guy (I’ll call him Sam), got busy drilling the holes to the bottom of the wooden box he made, while it was in the RV basement compartment, with the batteries in it.

Kevin went inside to cool off because it was horribly hot and humid out, not to mention the mosquitoes were everywhere.

-So, imagine being miserably hot, your clothes were sticking to you, your energy was quickly getting depleted, AND you were constantly getting bit by mosquitoes.

Yeah, note to self: don’t work on the RV when it’s hot and humid out.

Kevin went back outside and Sam said, “I accidentally drilled a hole into one of the batteries, and I have battery acid all over my pants.”

Kevin thought he was kidding because Sam liked to joke a lot.

It wasn’t a joke.


There was battery acid everywhere!

All the hard work of wiring everything up had to be undone.

They had to take all of the batteries out of the basement compartment and the wooden box Kevin made for it. 

Sam was okay, but he felt bad and wouldn’t let us pay him for his labor because the battery he drilled a hole into was going to cost us $130.00 to get a new one.


What a bleeping mess!!!

We all make mistakes, but this RV renovation is kicking our ass.

-But, we’re not giving up.

We realize it’s actually the heat and humidity that’s kicking our ass, not the RV itself.

Plan B:

  • ·       Breathe.
  • ·       Don’t be in a hurry.
  • ·       Don’t work on the RV when it’s miserably hot and humid outside.
  • ·       Focus on one project at a time.
  • ·       Remember, everything is how it should be.
  • ·       Go with the flow.


Today is Sunday. On Sundays we prepare food for the week, do laundry, I set my personal goals, work on my writing, and future plans.

It’s time to regroup and reenergize for the coming week.

Life comes with struggles and frustrations.

That’s how we grow.

I told Kevin what happened was now a memory we could revisit: “Remember, back in the summer of 2018, when Sam accidentally drilled a hole into one of our batteries, and you had to undo all of the work you'd done. Omg, that fucking sucked! But we got through it.” We also have this memory to share with other people, like what I’m doing now with you guys.

-So, everything is how it should be.

It’s all good.

RV Maintenance: Don’t Make This Mistake

We made a mistake last weekend when we were sealing things up on the fiberglass frame of the RV that’s going to cost us more work and time.

We used latex caulk instead of silicone.

(LOL I couldn't resist. That my friend is a Beavis & Butthead moment.)

Latex caulk with silicone added is supposed to last 40 yrs.

Cool, right?

-Well, on the back of the tube, in tiny ass font it says it takes up to 7-14 days to dry. 

If it rains within that time frame guess what?

You’re totally screwed.

Last Sunday evening we sealed all of the windows, seams, etc. on the outside of our RV.

And then this happened on Monday morning.

We had a major thunderstorm and it poured and poured and poured.

When I got home from the office Kevin told me he wanted to show me something.

We went outside, and he showed me this.

It was a gooey, yucky mess.


-So, we have to scrape all of the sealant off and reseal everything with silicone.

We decided to do it today.

But, we needed a scraper.

How do you walk into a hardware store and say, “I need a caulk scraper?”

That was Kevin’s question earlier.

He bought the scraper, and he scraped the latex off while I picked up the goobage and handed him a paper towel when he needed to wipe that shit off his fingers.

He resealed everything, and now we think we’re good.

-So, learn from our mistake. Read all of the instructions on everything you do, just to be on the safe side. 

RV Renovation: Solar Panels Are Installed

The solar panels are installed!

We took the week of June 25th off to install our solar panels.

Of course, it didn’t take a week to do.

. . . But the weather was atrocious, so we had to wait until the humidity wasn’t so high and the temp. bearable.

Wednesday morning was when Kevin installed them.

I had to tie a rope to the back of each one so Kevin could hoist it up on top of the roof.

Do you notice the covers on them?

We didn’t want the sun on the panels until they were installed.

After Kevin placed the panels where he wanted them to be, he got busy mounting them.

He made a mistake, though.

He had mounted one of the panels close to the edge of the roof to prevent us from having to walk there.

Vertigo tends to mess with us.

. . . But what ended up happening was the wires from the other panels wouldn’t reach the one close to the edge, so Kevin had to redo it.


However, I’m sure you guys know from your own personal experiences that when you renovate anything the process always comes with challenges.  

We’ve been challenged this past week, and I’m not talking only with the solar panels, but with other things as well.

I’ll talk about that in another post.

-So the solar panels are installed.

Guess what comes next?


Not fun.

Kevin needs one more part in order to complete the project, which he’ll get tomorrow.

Once he hooks it up, we’ll have solar power.


Our goal for the month of June was to install our solar panels and get it working.

We basically accomplished it.

Our goal for the month of July is appliances.

We have a furnace and hot water heater that doesn’t work, and we know nothing about them.

We need a 3-way refrigerator, which cost between $1,500.00-$2,000.00.

I’m not shitting you.

I’m serious.

It’s frickin’ expensive.

We also need to find out if our a/c works, but before we can do that, we need to get our generator (our mechanic friend is rebuilding it) back. We might end up just buying a new one (I'd like to have a Honda generator) which I think cost like $2,000.00.

-So this month will be interesting and costly.

I’ll keep you up to date on it.

Honestly, I know all of our hard work and the money spent to do this project will be worth it in the long run. 

For some reason we were meant to have this RV (Aesop), and I do appreciate it and love it. I'm also looking forward to seeing how it looks once we’re all done with the renovation.

Before we know it, we’ll be off on a new journey—a journey of self-discovery, of being in the now, truly living, and hopefully, inspiring others.

Our RV Renovation Continues

Over the weekend, Kevin installed this ladder on the back of our RV.

Yes, I know it’s a boring ladder, but I thought I’d show you anyway. 

I have it on video, btw. 

There was a big gap between the steps after Kevin installed it, but thankfully, his coworker showed up and fixed the problem.


Speaking of video. Omg, we watched the video last night and had a good laugh.

I’m Getting Personal For A Moment

Honestly, after watching myself on video, I was having second thoughts about videotaping myself and forgetting about the whole YouTube thing we plan on doing the day we embark on our nomadic lifestyle.

 . . . But I think I just have to get over it.

I’m very critical about my looks, and if you read the article I wrote about verbal bullying (see last post), you’ll know why.

I thought I appeared fat in the video, and I didn’t like the way I looked.

It’s something I’m struggling with, but I think my desire to share with the world our journey and inspire people will probably outweigh my insecurities about my looks.

I hope.

Back To The RV Renovation

We weren’t able to install the solar panels today due to the weather being unpredictable, so we did this instead:

 Here’s a picture of the distressed cabinet by itself.

I’m going for the gypsy/boho/vintage look inside our RV, and we love how this turned out. 

Last weekend we watched a bunch of YouTube tutorials on how to distress your furniture to give it that vintage chip look. 

Well, it paid off.

The rest of the cabinets and walls will be a cream color. 

We might do one wall a light gray. I don’t know, but we’re excited to see what it’s all going to look like after we’re done.

I’ll show you pictures as we continue to renovate Aesop.

. . . So, if it doesn’t rain tomorrow, we’ll be installing the solar panels.

Wish us luck!

Help Bring Awareness To Verbal Bullying

Hey, guys. I wrote a powerful article about verbal abuse.

I really put myself out there because it’s a true story about my own experiences with being verbally bullied, and the three things I did to gain the self-confidence I didn’t have.

I feel so strongly about this growing problem in our society that I had to get personal and real.

Kids and adults have committed suicide because of this.

I attempted suicide several times throughout my childhood because of what the verbal abuse had done to me.

Anyway, my article was published in Thought Catalog which is a popular online magazine.

Help me bring more awareness to verbal bullying by sharing the article.

Who knows. You might save a life if you do.

The RV Renovation Begins

Over the weekend Kevin and I were finally able to start renovating our RV (Aesop).


The following is what we discovered and what we'd done so far.

A Small Leak.

We know there are no leaks in our RV . . . so we thought.

There was one hidden beneath the window in the living room area.

We already knew there was an old leak there because of the small bubbles in the wall, so Kevin took the front part of it off. 

It revealed old water damage from a leaky window. 

The prior owners fixed it, but what we didn’t know until yesterday was the seal between the outer body panels wasn’t sealed properly, so water was still able to dribble between the wall. 

. . . Well, that sucks.

As you can see, Kevin fixed that problem. No big deal, but now we have to figure out what to do with that part of the wall inside the RV, since we need to fix it and then cover it back up. 

Any ideas?

It's a cosmetic issue.

The whole wall needs to look the same.

I'm open to suggestions.

A Rotting Step

On Saturday, Kevin discovered beneath the bottom step the metal part was rotting. 

Instead of fixing it, the previous owners covered it up with a block of wood and nailed the shit out of it. 

It was a pain in the ass to pry out . . . er, hack off. 

But Kevin prevailed.

I had no doubt.

He built a new step and will fix the rest of it this week.

He did a wonderful job.

Nasty Carpet Be Gone

Also, on Saturday, we started ripping the carpet out.

Btw, I filmed parts of it.

Once our Youtube Channel goes live, parts of this footage will be integrated into one of our shows.

Yesterday we finished tearing out 95% of the carpet.


Good news.

The floor is in great shape.

Double Woot!

We’re going to put fake wooden floors in. I forgot what they’re called, but they look real and clean up well.

We still need to pull the carpet out of the bathroom, but first we have to take the toilet out. We’re going to get a composting toilet.

There’s also strips of carpet along the walls that has to be cut out. I tried cutting it with a box cutter and had no luck. I don’t know if it’s because my hand strength is poor or I’m just not doing it right.

It’s Time For Solar Panels 

We’re taking all of next week off to install four solar panels on top of the roof of our RV.

. . . But it’s supposed to be in the 90s that whole week, plus humidity.

We don’t do well in those conditions.

So we’ll have to take a lot of breaks and literally chill out in our house.

No worries.

We’ll adapt, improvise, and overcome.

So it’s happening.

Like I had said before: If you don’t have a plan, you’ll be part of someone else’s plan.

We have a plan and with determination, preparation, and hard work, we’ll bring it into fruition and live life the way we want to.

How To Own Your Life

If you don’t have a plan, you’re going to be part of someone else’s plan.

Are you happy with your job?

Are you happy living the same routine everyday (wash-rinse-repeat)?

Are you happy with the relationships you have in your life?

. . . If you answered yes to all three of these questions, I’m happy for you, and there’s no need for you to read this post.

But I invite you to stay because you might learn something new about yourself.

Are you happy with your job?

If you’re not happy with your job, make a plan to change it. Otherwise you’re giving a big part of your life away being miserable at something you don’t like to do.

No brainer, right?

Go get your dream job.

If you don’t have the skills, then make a plan to get them.

Go back to school, take an online course, volunteer.

Say you’ve always wanted to be a veterinarian. Volunteer at a vet clinic. You’ll get hands on experience to go along with your schooling.

Who knows, maybe the veterinarian there will hire you and end up mentoring you.

Opportunity happens when you step out of your comfort zone.

A lot of people will suck it up and remain at their shitty jobs until they either die or retire. The same applies with their unsatisfactory lives because they allow the fear of stepping out of their comfort zone take hold of them.

. . . Or they’re just too damn lazy to try.


I know.

It’s a lot easier to bitch about our lives than to do something about it, right?

But new opportunities and growth happens when we step out of our comfort zone and put ourselves out there.

It doesn’t happen if we live our life on wash-rinse-repeat.

Are the relationships you have genuine?

If you stopped being of use to people in your life, will they still want to be part of it?

. . . Here’s another way to put it: If you have nothing to offer except for your friendship, who will still be in your life?

To illustrate it even further, a gal I knew was on the brink of losing her business. 

One day she broke down in front of me and cried, “What will my friends think if I lose everything?”

“If they’re your true friends it won’t matter to them.They’ll still be your friends,” I said.

She didn’t like my reply.

She ignored me.

You know why?

Because she cared more about being part of the herd—even though it wasn’t genuine—than having a few true friends.

. . . So, think about it.

If her so called friends bailed on her after she lost everything—because she was no longer of use to them—this gal would either be crushed or would finally realize her relationship with them was artificial.

She’d be much happier if she didn’t care what others thought and got rid of the plastic people in her life.

How to own your life.

It’s YOUR life.

When you take your last breath on this earth, YOU are the one who will be looking back on your life.

Not your relatives.

Not your friends.

Not your employer.


You're the one who is responsible on how you live it.

Not them.

It's up to you to either piss it away or live a happy one for you.

 . . . Ask yourself these questions and then answer them honestly:

-Do you enjoy the job you have?

-Are there toxic people in your life?

-Do you seek people’s approval?

-Do you cater to people's needs more than you should?

-Do you take some time out for you?

-Do you make up excuses on why you can't do something?

-Are you doing something that you're passionate about that brings you great joy?

-Do you ever step out of your comfort zone?

Your answers will tell you the areas you need to work on, so you can take those steps toward owning your life.

Wrapping it up.

Do what makes you happy, but it'll probably involve stepping out of your comfort zone.

But it’s okay.

Learning and growing is a huge part of our life experience.

If you don’t have a plan you’ll be part of someone else’s plan.

If you want to support someone else’s dream by working for them and being miserable because you don’t have the drive to change your life, so be it.

But, if you want to OWN your life, you need to grab it by the balls and change your job situation.

There are people in your life because you’re USEFUL to them.

Stop being a doormat.

Once you firmly say no to them and stick to your guns, they’ll find another sap to take advantage of.

This also goes for the toxic and artificial people as well.

Do you really want disingenuous people in your life?


Get rid of it.

You're going to be much happier, and your loved ones will probably be inspired by your newfound energy and tenacity to view each day as another opportunity to set and reach your goals . . . to own your life instead of investing it on poor returns.